A few folks were wondering where/why I came up with the “knowing” post – pointing out it was sort of random and out of the blue. Well it came mostly from a post over at smart money called 10 things your spouse won’t tell you.
Here are all 10:
- “I spend more on my mistress than I do on you.”
- “I have a secret bank account.”
- “I have an ‘office spouse’ I adore.”
- “I’m going to pretend I never bought that (or at least lie about what it cost).”
- “I earn more than you think.”
- “I’m happier because I make more money than you…”
- “…but I hate being the breadwinner.”
- “I married you for money.”
- “I’d rather you cheat on me than lie about money.”
- “I blew our savings because the saleswoman was beautiful.”
Hmmm…. really? Well the nature of the article (and the theme among all of these) involves keeping secrets – any secrets. So that’s where I got “I would rather know.”
But more than a few of these relate to family finances in a relevant way. Numbers 10 is nuts. I know – I’ve read a bunch of articles on looks and money and there is a lot of data suggesting there is a correlation. And if you’re on the envelope system and sticking with it, as long as you’re paying your bills and keeping food on the table and the lights on, spending envelope money (in the blow envelope) without a ton of structure is not going to kill you. In fact, that’s really the design of the blow money envelope. The money just won’t stretch as far I guess.
But please don’t let #10 crop up in your life (men and women)! I’m no psychologist, but even if it’s common, there’s probably something you’re trying to overcome by throwing money at good-looking salespeople.
But if all else fails, find an ugly salesperson. I know, I don’t like to use the word “ugly” either, but I’m using it for effect. Find one you’re not attracted to if you can’t control your spending if you’re attracted to the salesperson.
Why? Well, you’re probably not trying to do it, and it may be “minor,” in the grand scheme of things, but you’re hurting your family (current or future) by wasting money like that. For single folks, sure, the salesperson may be your future spouse. But there are better ways to meet him or her than spending a bunch of cash. Try something like this: “Wow. Thanks for your help. This might seem awkward, but do you want to grab a cup of coffee or something when you get out? You seem really fun and down to earth. I’d love to get to know you better.” That’s pretty cheesy, but something like that. Would that line work on any of you ladies out there? :) Just lay your cards on the table – and not your credit cards!!!! Just ask them out.
If you’re married, please don’t try that! Just find an ugly salesperson and go home and love your spouse!
Until next time, put your credit card down and slowly step away from the mall!