Are you too sexy for a renter?

by Nick on February 15, 2012

I’m sorry, but this has to be one of the dumbest surveys I’ve seen in a long time.  I’m not even sure what to make of it, so I figured I would ask you the questions and see what you think.  On the one hand, the survey seems to confirm the obvious.  On the other hand, at least some of the “results” they cite don’t seem to support the hypothesis.  Anyhow, in the wake of St. Valentine’s Day, let’s explain.

According to this post over at, “When it comes to dating, home ownership can be the ultimate aphrodisiac.”  In other words, people prefer dating home owners than renters.  (See what I mean about confirming the obvious?) 

So if you’re looking for a date, buying a home may be the solution.  (Really?  I’m thinking if I need to own a house in order to get a date, I might have some bigger issues… I’m pretty sure it’s a dumb idea to buy a house solely to score dates… especially if you’re broke.) 

I don’t know about you but I’d rather date someone who rents than someone who spent a couple hundred grand or more because she was lonely… Also, shouldn’t it matter how old the person is or what stage their life is in?  I mean, I’m not sure it matters for a 21 year old college student as much as a 58 year old guy, right? 

Sure it makes sense generally.  In the traditional sense, home ownership tells people that you’re willing to settle down, make commitments, think about the future, have a relatively-stable financial picture (well, maybe not so much anymore), etc. etc. 

But then the post starts talking about some “survey of 1,000 single people” and things start to fall apart.  In support of their home owners are sexier than renters theory, they cite this:

In a survey of 1,000 single people, more than a third of women and 18% of men said they would much rather date a homeowner than a renter.

Let me focus on the ladies a bit here… “More than one third of women” usually means somewhere closer to 34% than 84%.  So about one third of women would “much rather” date a homeowner.  One third?  Hardly justifies a conclusion that home ownership is the ultimate aphrodisiac, right? 

By contrast only two percent “prefer” a renter.  Big difference for sure.  But that still leaves about 65% of people surveyed.  Did they not care?  Or would they just “rather” date a home owner instead of “much rather” date one?  If they “don’t care” then a house really isn’t an aphrodisiac for most women…  So who the heck knows what the “results” are or mean….

But there’s more!
According to the post, people also don’t like to date people with roommates or who live with their parents.

Biggest turn-ons? 
Master baths, walk-in-closets, hardwood floors, outdoor decks and home theaters. 

Irrelevant amenities? 
Hot tubs.

Haha!  I’m pretty sure I could have made all this crap up… But let’s put it to the test.  I’ll give you my answers and reasons. 

Feel free to do the same in the comments or on your own blog if you’re a blogger.  If you post it to your site, send me the link and I’ll link it to the post.

  • Would you rather date a home owner?  Renter?  Or don’t care?  And why?

I’d rather date a responsible home owner than a renter just because of the “traditional” reasons.  But I’m not sure a monster subprime mortgage and huge HELOC on rental property qualifies me as “sexy.”  Would make for some great pickup lines ending in “you should see my HELOC” I guess… would those work on you ladies?

  • Do you prefer to date someone with a roommate or who lives alone?

Alone, just so I don’t have to worry about roommate drama I guess.  Back in the day when I was part of “the scene” I really didn’t care though (especially if her roommate was cool, cute or both…).  Also, I’m pretty cheap so I’d like that she was into “saving money” by having a roommate, so it’s a close call. 

  • Would you date someone living with their parents?

Sure, why not?  All things being equal I guess I’d prefer someone who didn’t just because of privacy, supervision or boundary issues.  But it’s the same roommate preference – not strong – just a minor inconvenience I guess…

  • House turn-ons?

I’m simple.  I don’t really care, but if I could choose, I’d prefer a clean house, hardwood floors, good heat and a/c and at least a small yard.  I don’t care if I can walk into a closet or even if I had a “man cave.”  A place to set up a drum set and make some noise would be cool, too.  Oh, and it must have a grotto….no, no grotto… (But remember, this is “real estate” in my neck of the woods.

  • Irrelevant amenities?

Swimming pools and hot tubs are definitely pointless for me (mostly because they’re too much work and expensive for their worth to me).  What else… hmmm… Pretty much everything else… granite counter tops, stainless appliances, wine cellars… I could go on and on.
***Of course this is all irrelevant as I’m married (sorry ladies!  haha!).  So I live with a home owner (who also rents – we each own rental property and rent where we live).  She also has three roommates (including me and our 2 kids) and helps keep a nice home.  (By “helps” keep I nice home, I mean does pretty much all of the work, but don’t tell her I conceded that…don’t worry, she doesn’t read this blog.).***

What do you think ladies?  Gents?

  1. Would you rather date a home owner? Renter? Or don’t care? And why?
  2. Do you prefer to date someone with a roommate or who lives alone?
  3. Would you date someone living with their parents?
  4. House turn-ons (or must haves)?
  5. Irrelevant amenities (or must not haves)?

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Money Infant February 15, 2012 at 12:38 pm

Back when I was a single guy I'm almost certain I never gave a second thought to the living arrangements of those I dated. Of course maybe they were judging me because I was a renter, but too bad for them it was their loss. Overall though I would have to say what a pile of crap. A perfect example of why I don't read much from the mainstream finance media sites.
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Jana@DailyMoneyShot February 15, 2012 at 2:46 pm

I want money to conduct this kind of survey! This is one of the most assinine surveys I've ever heard of. And there are a lot of those.

If I were dating, I don't know that I'd care about the whole rent/homeowner thing. I'd rather date a renter who pays his rent on time than a homeowner who thinks it's funny that he hasn't paid his mortgage in 6 months and is on the brink of eviction. Same thing for cleanliness–if he was a renter and his place was clean, it'd be much more attractive than dating a homeowner who's one phone call away from the cast of Hoarders.

I don't even think the roommate thing would be an issue, depending on my age. If I were in my early to mid-20s, I'd expect someone to have a roommate. But in my 30s, I'd probably hesitate. Especially if those roommates are his parents…
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Modest Money February 15, 2012 at 4:53 pm

Yeah this survey is amusing. It sounds like they just wanted a good survey description to draw people in and then didn't care how conclusive the results actually were. When I'm dating, the current housing situation matters very little to me. I've dated women still living at home or living with parents. It would be great if she was well off with a home of her own, but it wouldn't be something I'd specifically look for. It might actually make her more intimidating since I'm currently just renting.
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Kooz February 15, 2012 at 5:11 pm

Would you rather date a home owner? Renter? Or don't care? And why?
-Doesn't matter; don't care.

Do you prefer to date someone with a roommate or who lives alone?
-Alone, so we could go to her place and be alone (this is all hypothetical, mind you; I'm happily married).

Would you date someone living with their parents?
-Probably not, though it depends. I know a few people living with their parents at around my age. One does so because they help take care of his kid (his wife passed away), and another helps take care of his parents. I could deal with dating a girl who lived with her folks like these two. The rest I know are straight-up losers.

House turn-ons (or must haves)?
-I am always impressed by big, open spaces, especially in the entrance, master bath, or master bedroom. Not must-haves, but nice.

Irrelevant amenities (or must not haves)?
-I am not a fan of plastic baths/showers. Or formica countertops. Again, not deal-breakers, but I'm not crazy about them.

I wouldn't base dating decisions on the quality of someone's house (or apartment).
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MoneySmartGuides February 15, 2012 at 11:39 pm

I couldn't care less about the girl's living situation as long as she was smart with her money. I'd rather date a girl who rents and lives within her means as opposed to one that is in huge amounts of debt and a house.

I agree that the survey is a joke. There are so many of them out there though. I think it's because there are so many 24/7 news outlets and they all need stories….breaking news!! 84% of adults enjoy eating pizza!
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Nick February 16, 2012 at 3:50 pm

Nice! I'm with you (which is why you'll notice they all disappeared from my blogroll…)
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Nick February 16, 2012 at 3:52 pm

I hear ya on the parents… The last time I was single was in my 20s but as I get older the parents issue might be more troubling too.
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Nick February 16, 2012 at 3:53 pm

Isn't it great (or sad…) that people get paid to do surveys like this? Interestiing take on being intimidated by a homeowner as a renter, too. I wonder if "the ladies" would feel that way, too, or if it's more of a macho man thing. I might have the same reaction initially at least.
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Nick February 16, 2012 at 3:54 pm

Damn it Kooz! I just bought you a plastic shower for your birthday. Now I need to return it.
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